Our experiences - the moments that forge who we are - can never be merged. In addition, perception is constantly changed with the more we experience... meaning that my perception might not apply to everyone or even myself as the years change my viewpoint. That being said, however, life phases are definable. And that is the platform for this blog project. I want to explore the phenomenon that is personality. And I invite you to join me.
Personality, for modeling and many careers, is considered an essential. But no one knows how to define it or really even describe it. My first time traveling for modeling to New York City began with a roller coaster of emotions. I remember those mornings, afternoons and evenings in the café downstairs stressing collectively with my roommates. A regular topic: How the hell are we supposed to unlock our ‘wow factor’? If you force yourself to be more talkative - you’re obnoxious. If you’re too quiet - you’re invisible. What’s the formula to a perfect personal aura?!
Well, time has passed since then. And even though I haven’t found the exact formula, I do know what has helped me since that first fashion week. I can’t fit too much detail in this intro post, but here are a couple of hints towards what I’ve found to be most beneficial. In the next posts I’ll be going into further depth and having guest input.
Experience. The ups, the downs, the run arounds. These are necessary to form your world view. Distance yourself from what you know in order to find what you understand. Spread your energy into developing passions. Find joy in the simple things. Experience takes time and can’t be faked. You have to constantly invest in yourself. And remember - your life is a collection of experiences already. Evaluate your childhood, adolescence and adulthood to your current point. The fond along with the not so fond. Appreciate the who, what and how you currently are.
Calm. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I have had a good deal of bitterness hold me back in the past. From stress, from lack of communication (mostly on my part), from unreal expectations or flawed interpretations. Exhale those away. Trust yourself and the people around you - that way your genuine self can come through. I want to point out that calm IS NOT numb. If you’ve numbed yourself into the flow of circumstances, you are not experiencing. Calm is taking in the moment, understanding how you’ve come to that moment, and accepting where it might lead you. I’m not perfect in this and I doubt that anyone is.
Motivation. You have the power to influences your circumstances. The world is better connected now than ever before, and if you’re passionate about something you can make it happen. I’ve struggled with this one, reserving myself to ‘numbness’ and allowing events to play themselves out. That’s time lost to an irretrievable past. The future, however, can always be acted on. I suggest we all strive towards making ourselves better than the day before.
Confidence. It’s a combination of all these things. Experience. Calm. Motivation. When you understand yourself, you understand others and the world around you. When you have experienced a life phase, you can understand and relate to others currently in that life phase. Confidence is that ‘personal aura’ I mentioned before. Saying things that matter instead of trying to fill the silence with nonsense. It’s style and interest.
I intend to explore how people perceive confidence. My hope is that this exploration can be as useful to others as it has been to me. More to come. xo